One of the mistakes of my life has been that I have largely dismissed psychology and psychiatry as quack science. Couple days ago I poosted up a vid of some deranged lunatic spouting outhouse spirituality - whose primary message was: "You're a lunatic, but that's okay because you live on a different plane of existence! Your erratic behavior and emotional failures aren't your fault - it's the world's fault!!!!" And her comments section filled up with adoring water spirits, UFO's, sexual degenerates all singing her praises for her clarity of thought. I was so disgusted I couldn’t even be bothered to troll them or poop in the comments.
I dunno if this guy’s any better? He makes some of the right noises…but are they “right”?
I am not, and have never been the selfless Cinderella Fella that always put everyone else first. Sure, I was sometimes, but I did my best to avoid it. The second someone started treating me like an asset to be used and abused I learned that it was probably best to just end the relationship as quickly and cleanly as possible. If I was treated like a liability it was over that instant. The only exception was my family. But things finally got so abrasive and so heated that I went nuclear with them too. This guy thinks (correctly) that communication can iron out most problems. My problem was that my family members that I had friction with - stopped listening. They have “their truth” and if I didn’t agree with it - I was a bad person. When you can’t talk to someone, and all they spew is nonsense and feelings and it’s driving you up the wall? GAH. I took the nuclear option when the time came. It’s not for everyone. If you’re talking…keep trying to patch things up and work something out, maybe? If they turn you off and treat you with contempt - maybe you should just walk, with as little drama as possible. That’s my two bits, anyway. Unlike Doctor Cranium here… I was blessed with a great wife, so I got off easy. I was incredibly lucky. She was in the same boat, her family didn’t listen to her either.
50 is a rough time for many men. Men are conditioned not to listen to their hearts but when you hit 50 or thereabouts… I dunno? The human heart wants what it wants, and for many men… bullshit, pandemonium, drama and mayhem are not on the list. And Dr. Cranium hits the nail right on the head when he says wanting to be done with it is normal. I don’t have any answers, you do you as they say - and the best of luck to ya.
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