“I’ve got two of them!” I replied cheerily, and went back to my digging. “You’re too fat and need to lose weight!!!” Like a stopped clock, the old bitch is right twice a day! HAR HAR HAR HAR! 😆👍 I kept right on digging. I didn’t give a shit.
Mom let me know she had decided that she’s going to cook one last Thanksgiving dinner and invited us and I told her I had plans. I don’t do drama or family shit tests anymore. Mom gave up and went in the house to do her jigsaw puzzle and left me to my work.
Afterward she insisted on a cup of decaf coffee and informed me she’d be selling the house soon. I congratulated her (I’ve been wanting her to do that for the last year but got offended when I said so). I think my approval triggered her or something and she started getting snippy and pissy again. Not knowing what else to do, I took a last swallow of coffee, got up, poured the rest out in the sink… and bailed.
I think I should feel bad because we can’t connect. I used to but now I’ve gotten so old and miserable - it doesn’t bother me at all! Where all the resentments, regrets and emotions used to … be is just this empty space of indifference in my psyche…
Mom’s going to be moving into a home soon, so at least that’s good news.
Its been over a decade since I spoke with my mom; walking away from her bs was the best decision i could have made. The last time we communicated was me having a letter sent to her informing her that if she came to my property again she would be charged with trespassing.
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Filthy, she is how she is and will never change as you have now accepted. You still having a relationship with her and helping her around the house rather than just cutting off all contact shows you are the bigger person than her.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short and the way that she acts says way more about her than you. It sounds like she's not happy and you would think that she realizes that she doesn't have that much longer to live and would be nice and enjoy life ?
But no, she double and triple downs on her BS.
Pretty much, Jimmy. I take what I can, when I can… and it’s enough. You’re exactly right, she is what she is, and any problems with her are my fault for wanting her to be something else.
DeleteWe could all be better people I suppose…
An ocean of horror. I pray for y'all.
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My mom would use my desire to see my father to facilitate her abuse. Dad had dementia from Parkinson's. She invented a fictional "betrayal" to drive a wedge between us. It was very hurtful and I won't write what I wanted to do to her. kent
ReplyDeleteOh man. I won’t kid ya, Kent… there were times I wanted to goon my mom with the flat of an axe or a spade… or slowly choke her to death… 😆👍
DeleteWhat of it? I’m sure she’d have loved to light me up with a 9mm or push me out a window… 😂😂😂
Dad wanted me to have the tools and the guns but I couldn't even visit him. I didn't get to visit my father. I didn't get the guns or the tools either. Fathers: make an airtight will or Trust for your sons. The feminazi doctrine deliberately stops intergenerational wealth transfer. Guess ((!who)) invented feminazism
ReplyDeleteYa have to focus. Mom tried to stir that pot with my brother and I … and I just told the old bitch that Big Bro was perfect just like she is - so he would be the soul beneficiary and executor of her estate, and we had it all worked out. I am not rich, but I’m free and I can look after myself.
DeleteIn truth she has nothing I need or want. It’s just money and stuff and I’m not getting bent out of shape over it. Nothing but bad karma ever comes out of inheritance disputes. Stuff like that can drive people nuts and I want no part of it.
It was the lesbian "priests" at the Lutheran church that indoctrinated mother against her sons. Kent
ReplyDeleteMy mom and I have always had good rapport. That being said, she's become a true political enemy over the past several years. Worse yet, she'll twist seeing a bird in flight into a political argument whose only exit is to say "You're right, Mom." She still doesn't get it. She thinks she's the only one right in the room, and can't see she's the only one LEFT in the room. NO ONE wants to deal with her shit anymore.
ReplyDeleteMy PERSONAL OBSERVATION is that Leftism IS INDEED a CULT, and TDS (Trump Derangement Syndrome) is REAL!
Yep. I spent my life doing that Pete. It used to drive me bonkers. In mom’s case - sure she’s an idiotic shitlib… but she wants to be a malicious bitch and fight about it. I don’t put up with it anymore. She can run her mouth at someone who cares.
DeleteI know this has been a terrible situation for so long, almost nothing could change things now. Even so, we only get one mother & one father in this world and I’m genuinely sorry that you couldn’t sort the situation out mate.
ReplyDeleteI have FINALLY been able to reunite with all of my estranged family post the devastation brought by the great medical experiment. We lost 5 fucking years of family life over this. But it took a catastrophe in my life to bring us together after all this time.
My folks are in their 80’s & mum has early dementia brought on by chemotherapy from cancer treatment (that was diagnosed not all that long after the safe & effective “treatment”). I’m never going to say anything about that to them, because so what if I’m right after all? What’s it going to prove or do? Without admitting it, we all know that we don’t have much time left as a family so the hatchet has finally been buried. There’s just some things we cannot talk about and we get on with life.
God bless Glen, and while there’s life, there’s still a chance.
Best wishes
KA
Well I’m glad you guys were able to patch things up, KA. There’s a lot to be said for parting on good terms when the family gets old and time grows short. I am envious of your wisdom… that’s something we don’t have much of in my family and perhaps I’m the biggest problem in that regard?
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