Jeez this guy looks more like me than I do! I’m close 10 years older than he is too. Sounds kinda like me too.
According to all the celebs and cool kid “influencers” I am a failure at life. The Sigma and Alpha males make sure I know it, the purple faced rage headed empowered entitled women make sure I know it, the nogs, wogs, wanks n’ skanks will write volumes about how conservative white males like me ruined EVERYTHING. Good grief, we haven’t been in charge of anything for 50 years and we’re STILL getting blamed for everything.
Y’know I’ve seen all kinds of self proclaimed perfect parents and successful life role models giving out advice but when ya get up close and personal and really look at these people… more often than not… they’re just screwballs. Or assholes. Often they’re both. My mom was a perfect mother. She’ll even tell ya so and give expert advice on how to deal with problem kids like I was. There’s two sides to every story. She had no idea how good she had it. Real problem kids are no joke. To hear her tell it I was an axe mudererer. My daughter thinks I’m Dr. Mengele.
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This guy comes at it from the perspective of a failed marriage. I’ve seen the kids become weapons the parents use against each other in messy divorces. I have no idea how my marriage succeeded despite all my failings and short comings. All I could do was the best I could and by my standards I did alright. I made lots of mistakes just as my parents did. Unlike them I will admit it too. But… While she was under my roof, my daughter was mostly courteous and polite, she was a borderline honour student, and she kept her craziness and bitterness to herself. All her failures after that were her own - and she answers for them the same way we all do when we move out into the world as adults.
I think this fella said it best when he said that the world is not a great place for kids right now, and that it’s headed for darker places still. It took me years to realize that my daughter was just going along with it. Like a lot of people, she bobs and floats and drifts with those with no moorings or anchor, going where the world takes her… and she’s convinced it’s a good thing I guess?
Did this guy dodge a bullet? At first glance maybe he did. When I was young the bullets came from the front and I took them square in the chest and in time I learned from them. The ones that got me in the back were the worst but in time I walked them off too. I’m 61, and now… I don’t want any family at all!
I’m still walking, by the grace of God, and if I can finish up by doing no evil and having none done to me…I’ll call it a success and to hell with the cool kids and influencers.
amen
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