Jeez this guy looks more like me than I do! I’m close 10 years older than he is too. Sounds kinda like me too.
According to all the celebs and cool kid “influencers” I am a failure at life. The Sigma and Alpha males make sure I know it, the purple faced rage headed empowered entitled women make sure I know it, the nogs, wogs, wanks n’ skanks will write volumes about how conservative white males like me ruined EVERYTHING. Good grief, we haven’t been in charge of anything for 50 years and we’re STILL getting blamed for everything.
Y’know I’ve seen all kinds of self proclaimed perfect parents and successful life role models giving out advice but when ya get up close and personal and really look at these people… more often than not… they’re just screwballs. Or assholes. Often they’re both. My mom was a perfect mother. She’ll even tell ya so and give expert advice on how to deal with problem kids like I was. There’s two sides to every story. She had no idea how good she had it. Real problem kids are no joke. To hear her tell it I was an axe mudererer. My daughter thinks I’m Dr. Mengele.
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This guy comes at it from the perspective of a failed marriage. I’ve seen the kids become weapons the parents use against each other in messy divorces. I have no idea how my marriage succeeded despite all my failings and short comings. All I could do was the best I could and by my standards I did alright. I made lots of mistakes just as my parents did. Unlike them I will admit it too. But… While she was under my roof, my daughter was mostly courteous and polite, she was a borderline honour student, and she kept her craziness and bitterness to herself. All her failures after that were her own - and she answers for them the same way we all do when we move out into the world as adults.
I think this fella said it best when he said that the world is not a great place for kids right now, and that it’s headed for darker places still. It took me years to realize that my daughter was just going along with it. Like a lot of people, she bobs and floats and drifts with those with no moorings or anchor, going where the world takes her… and she’s convinced it’s a good thing I guess?
Did this guy dodge a bullet? At first glance maybe he did. When I was young the bullets came from the front and I took them square in the chest and in time I learned from them. The ones that got me in the back were the worst but in time I walked them off too. I’m 61, and now… I don’t want any family at all!
I’m still walking, by the grace of God, and if I can finish up by doing no evil and having none done to me…I’ll call it a success and to hell with the cool kids and influencers.
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ReplyDeleteYou said it 6:58... Amen. I hear ya Filthie. You oughta write a book.
DeleteI got your message, TM.
ReplyDeleteYou guys did alright too…
Thanks.
Deleteif I had one chance to do it all over from 18 years old, I would be this guy. I had three marriages to preachers kids, that made it worse. Now, I am not interested in the "fairer" sex, as she is evil incarnate. I enjoy my solitude, my time, is it selfish? Yes, and I relish that. I am not lonely for companionship. I will die as a confirmed bachelor, not as a lonely, withered, angry old man.
ReplyDeleteSomething really bad happened to our women… maybe several “somethings”?
DeleteI look at my friends in the exact same boat as you and … it isn’t the guys. Call me a misogynist, I don’t care! I met their women and I still wonder how our myths about spousal abuse and battered women propagate. I’ve seen more women that seriously NEED to be slapped than you can shake a stick at. You do not exaggerate - they are flat out evil.
Same here, C.
DeleteI've been blessed with lifelong celibacy, which afforded me a clarity that most men don't have. I decided way back in middle school that there's was no fucking way that I'd subject any potential kid of mine to the culture we have today. I sometimes struggle with feelings of underaccomplishment and purposelessness, but oh well.
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ReplyDeleteNever had kids and never wanted any. I’m 64, have 2 ex wives and it’s been 30 years since the 2nd of them left. Got to play dad for a couple days a few months ago when I had to stay with a friend’s 3 kids during a medical issue. There’s a very good reason I live alone…..
ReplyDeleteI love my grandkids. My goal is to be a great grandpa by age 70.
ReplyDeleteI'm 61 never married never had kids. I wish I had. But looking back at the women that I could have married but didn't, I know I made the right choice. If I had a time machine I would have told myself to marry young to a good nice girl. avoid the flashy popular ones and just pick a smart clean woman. waiting just didn't work for me.
ReplyDeleteI had an apathete (a big word meaning a dim light bulb went off) after my divorce over 45 years ago. Two bodies rubbing together does not make a whole person: (baring the voices in my head), I am alone and to that end, I need to be good with me and me alone. That's been my goal in life on a daily basis. Been in a 'relationship' for the past 30 years but NEVER married (did jump over a broom years ago after a night of drinking but don't know if that counts): things overall have been pretty good.
ReplyDeleteAlways appreciate your insights and stories - thanks for what you do ....
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You're a good man, Glen Filthie. You can sit next to me at the bar or throw your feet under my dinner table anytime at all.
ReplyDeleteI'm 72, male, straight, single, and never married. Some of us don't have to touch the electric fence for ourselves. Given the chance, I would have done things differently, but I think that's true for everyone.
I have no children that I'm aware of, and I never wanted any. I could never see myself as a father, and the way I was tearing it up would not make me good matrimonial material. Not good daddy material either. Let me babysit your kids and I'll teach 'em how to sing 'One Eyed Riley'.