Well we all gotta keep in mind what’s actually going on here: the first and foremost objective of modern journalism (hork, spit!) - is to generate clicks, likes, and ratings. In other words - revenue. Pretty much anything and everything can be written so long as it fulfills those objectives. Negative attention is as good as positive in this warped game.
The only exception to that is when the content undermines (((the agenda))) or (((the narrative))) that (((the owners))) wish to drive.
This is simply a well executed judeo-shitlib troll piece. I sincerely doubt the author actually seriously believes it… I think the objective here is to goad and irritate the thinking man into noticing the wrong things, state the wrong opinions, and set themselves up as racists/antisemites so that the jewry and faggotry can all gang up on him, point and shriek and scream about anti-semitism. In other words… just the usual race baiting clap trap. Yawn.
I think this obviously intellectually inclined jewess should set an example and give her rat faced husband an open pink ticket for the holidays too! 😂👍
This is what mind control looks like. https://x.com/ivan_8848/status/1871685294350913975?mx=2 Operation Mockingbird never ended. The CIA controls the MSM. The Conspiracy Theorists were right again. DG
Had to laugh at the headline at the top of the article. Imagine a "newspaper" where all those topics were about men? Men mean Business, Sex, etc etc etc ! The salt must flow.
I have no problem whatsoever with giving my wife a pass to cheat at Christmas or any other day of the year that ends in "y". The moment she asks for one, or tries to act on something like that, she's got her "free pass" with my most heart-felt blessings, along with divorce papers and ZERO chance of reconciliation.
I've had the following conversation with my wife a few times over the years. She effortlessly attracts other lame-duck loser women from the "freedom-movement" that are utterly eff'd in the head. They're fat, single, miserable losers and social outcasts. We have a free council-run, "music-on-the-podium" event every Friday night at one of our local parks during daylight savings. A few years ago, she had a "girls-night" there with six other peri/post menopausal loser single women from her workplace.
One particular 50+ woman drank FOUR bottles of wine, and was still upright and though clearly drunk, was operating fairly normally. None of the other six women with her tried to stop or slow her down. Such great friends !
A couple of times now, she has asked my permission to have a girls weekend with this alcoholic, severely obese cat mother and another similar "woman" at a coastal resort town six hours drive up the coast. Each time I said no effing way. Of course I get "you're insecure", "you're controlling", "you don't trust me ! ! ! ! ! (blink, blink)" blah-blah-blah.
I just laugh openly at her. My usual responses are a variation of: 1. I truly trust the locks on my car, but I don't leave the keys in the ignition, parked under a street light in >insert the local bad neighbourhood<.
2. Have all the girls nights you want. LOCALLY.
3. Exactly WHY do you want to hang out with a group of fat, alcoholic, PERMANENTLY SINGLE women hanging out at a venue 6 hours away from every one we know?
And of course, if she doth protest too much for too long, I tell her to go and have a great time, the best time of her life. Because ALL her stuff will be on the front veranda and the locks changed when she comes back. (I'm NOT bluffing with this). Married women don't want to go for trips away up the coast "with the girls".
Boy Anon, you sure are based patriarch! Giving your wife an ultimatum like that and she didn't upside your head with a frying pan? Keep it up, men desperately need to reestablish control and sanity, first in their family, community and their nation. I know, I drunk the stale hopium...
Not at all Cederq - I'm at the end of my wick, utterly sick of her carp, and we are very likely going to be divorced soon. She's now solidly menopausal, gives every excuse under the sun to try to avoid sex, its STRICTLY starfish method when she can't avoid it, (supposedly everything else hurts), has gained ~30 kilos, never touches me, hugs me, kisses me or tells me she loves me, rarely gets undressed in front of me, appreciates ANYTHING I do for her, spends all her time watching "Handmaids tale" or similar, is argumentative, and most fortunately -THANK God - we do not have kids. Been watching her like a hawk for signs of an affair, (nothing obvious on her phone or computer - yes I've checked both when she's not home) but I found she had accounts I didn't know about and managed to squirrel $10,000 of our money into her accounts (that I can't see). I couldn't believe how much the "cost of living" has escalated over the last year or so. Now I know why. Yeah, I'm not very happy right now.
Turns out she was already infertile when we got married. She already knew, but I had absolutely no clue at the time. So we wasted $30k in totally pointless IVF treatments. I found out last week that her mother told my mother >AT OUR WEDDING< that "we'd never have children". Gee thanks mum for not telling me until 12 YEARS later.
I have nothing but down side to stay in the relationship. The final straw was I reminded her that we got up before both our families, (including her dying father), all of our friends and made vows to each other before God. She said it didn't count because we had a civil ceremony, she wasn't a Christian at the time, and it wasn't held in a church. I looked into her eyes, and she kept waffling some crap. Part of me died right there and then.
My folks are in their 80's and have just developed significant health issues, so I'm now also dealing with elder care on top of everything else. I'm stressed out of my brain, have developed alopecia barbae (my glorious beard is falling out in huge patches), having issues concentrating at work, and am desperate for a proper shag.
So basically, enough is enough. I have seen a lawyer and my financial retirement will be destroyed. It's the only reason I haven't pulled the pin yet. So will hers - which she'll discover when she talks to her lawyers. So we might patch things up. I'm a good man. I've done nothing wrong, and have nothing to be ashamed of. But I'm done. I'm in good shape, 7" in my pants, have a permanent job and earn low 6-figures. The next time a hottie gives me the come hither, I'm going to remember that moment my wife told me she didn't say her vows before God.
Hate to say it, but it sounds like you’ve done everything right so far, A. A lot of men waffle under pressure like that and that’s the worst thing you can do. The best path forward with crazy women is to draw your lines, set your boundaries and tell them to make their mistake. The pattern I saw in the old Manosphere days was that when women were unhappy, they blamed it all on their men, divorced them and became even more bitter and twisted in their spinsterhood. But…whadda I know.
What gets into them? I had an interesting conversation with someone who claims that money is the number one cause of marital failure. I maintain that money squabbles are a symptom and not the cause of divorce. Have you any thoughts?
It's not money that does it. I think it's middle age crazy. They get to a point where they think they've wasted their lives. I had an email exchange with the ex that said I used her up until there's nothing left, typical battered housewife bs. She had to make me into a monster to justify a divorce (we're Catholic). In reality, I'm a normal dude that didn't know how to deal with a wife that was controlling and no longer loved him. So I drank. Not three months after she filed, the week I got the final decree, I met another woman, a widow. Nicer, younger, prettier. BTW, what your wife did is grounds for an annulment in Catholicism. A rubber stamp one. I wouldn't fear divorce. I know many guys like you. Hell, I was one. But I also know a few couples that can't split (financially). They hate each others guts but can't separate because (at least in the wife's case) because they are retired and she can't afford to live alone. So they live in misery. That there is worse.
I know all about battered women, TD. I did volunteer work at the local battered women’s shelter where my father in law and I would do minor repairs, shovel sidewalks, change lite bulbs and do janitorial stuff. I had to quit because my conscience couldn’t take it. In one year…I saw only one truly battered woman. I think she was Vietnamese or something? Her ‘man’ worked her over like a pro, and she arrived at the shelter with everything she owned in one very, very heavy suitcase.
Other than that they were druggies, whores, and nutters..often with children. Almost all of them NEEDED to be slapped and more than a few should have been horsewhipped.
The women in my family drove me to drink too. One day I finally put an end to the lunacy and just magically quit drinking a couple months later…cold turkey, no withdrawal symptoms at all. My wife didn’t even nag me. It was the damnedest thing…
My women and my situation are nothing like yours but I agree with Anon. There’s no easy way out and if things are that bad, pull the rip cord, bail out, take your lumps and try to land softly as you can.
You probably already know this, anon, but if she's doing things like going for 'girl's weekends out' with single friends at places where single women usually go, along with everything else you've talked about....well, I'd bet dollars to donuts she's probably at the point where she's ready to leave you too. She just doesn't know how to do it in a way that would screw her over too.
Buddy, I am in almost the exact same situation you're in. 15 years I've put up with this kind if shit, which only seems to get worse...only difference is, I have two kids (whom I love dearly). But if it wouldn't bone me financially as it would, and in turn hurt my kids, I'd pull the pin in a heartbeat. They're the only reason I endure this.
This seems to be a recurring problem everywhere I look. I'm a career policeman so domestic dispute calls aren't uncommon. But nowadays, DV calls are through the goddamn ceiling and thrusting into orbit. No...people out there aren't very happy at all...
" . . . money squabbles are a symptom and not the cause of divorce. "
PART 1 I suspect you are spot on there Glen. What really hurts is the knowledge she's been purposely squirrelling money away in secret for over a year, maybe two, deliberately planning to divorce that entire time. Stringing me along, lying and pretending to my face all is OK or has a chance of resolving our supposed "issues".
She's gone over our accounts like a hawk every single day since we were wed. At first this really bothered me as I'd never been scrutinised over every cent in my life before. Put the final polish on me as a man to be honest, and I put up with it because we were going to have kids, and I had huge financial responsibilities just around the corner. For the first time in my life, I was going to be a father, and I would have happily sacrificed ANYTHING for this. Just like MY father did for me & my siblings.
But because of this scrutiny, I've learned financial discipline and we have zero debt, other than the large mortgage. Small 3-bedroom house near the ocean, we completely renovated it 2019-2021 during the 'vid. We own two cars outright (a shit-box daily driver & an awesome 4WD ute fully set up for towing & long distance travel), own a yacht (outright), have fantastic gardens full of fruit & vegetables, 2 x dogs, chooks, as many toys as we could desire (ie pro-level camera gear, basic video kit, surfboards, SUP boards, fishing gear, deer rifles, powerful computers, big screen, quality furniture & fully renovated kitchen, camping gear, pantry full of home grown vegies, a large emergency larder of canned food & water, etc, etc, etc), have reasonable savings and an emergency cash fund, enjoy an overseas holiday every year or two - etc etc etc. Life doesn't get much better ! (Though I want a small ~20 - 50 acre farm so we can get off-grid & have food and water independence)
PART 2 We both have permanent, full-time good jobs - we both work from home 90% of the time too, saving mileage, fuel, servicing and a 2 hours per day commute. That is why I am 99% sure she is not cheating on me - as she has very few opportunities these days, and she knows I have game cameras set up around our house for security.
But she's not happy.
She had a mental breakdown after the IVF failed. Ended up getting violent with me - I didn't defend myself - instead I dragged her to her Dr and she was admitted to a mental hospital for a month. I made DAMN sure the Dr recorded that she assaulted ME, and I didn't respond. I also told my Dad and asked him to diarise it in case I mysteriously disappeared or was murdered as I slept. I also made sure she knew she would NEVER do that to me again, no matter what. Next time I'd defend myself, and we would be done forever.
Saw her every day in the hospital after work. Was there for her the whole way through. Course, the whole thing was because IVF mucked up her hormones, blah blah blah. I swallowed that rose fertiliser hook, line & sinker. Last millennium, an old gf become violent after going onto Depo Provera. So I cut my wife complete slack over this and truthfully let it go.
The issues came up ~3 years ago and have increased as the 'VID madness waned. Thanks to me keeping my job, she was able to avoid the medical experiment and we could keep our home. She became heavily involved in the "freedom" movement, and while we are in complete agreement over every aspect of it, the kinds of people she started socialising with changed. The vast majority are peri/post menopausal, miserable, tatted, nose-ringed single cat mums with loud opinions about everything. More than a few are dykes. The blokes generally tend to be a bit shifty, and I would not choose to associate with most of them as there seems to be a lot of growing weed and making hash in this "community".
I really started to notice the change in my wife when she became involved with this group, and I suspect the other women have been white-anting our relationship and likely telling her how to eff me over.
The first time I really had to put my foot down with her was she told me about this guy at the local protest that avoided the medical experiment as he'd just sold his computer business and didn't need to work anymore. He also "somehow" let slip in conversation that he had a stack of viagra.
At the time, I laughed when she told me about him, and the reason he needed viagra in his 40's was because he has heart issues and cannot get it up. I also pointed out that it was extremely odd that viagra had come up in conversation with a married woman. Viagra was not something a man would normally bring up to a woman he's recently met - in fact he'd be ashamed to admit he needed it!
I never tried to stop her going to these protests until one weekend she tells me she's going to an overnight protest in Canberra with another of the peri-menopausal single women - in viagra-man's car. Um, NO you are not. I trust you but do >NOT< trust some man who I have never met who has told my wife he has a stack of viagra. So yeah, I'm a controlling monster with trust issues. LOL !
There's a lot more along these lines, but basically, I've had more than enough and she falls in line or we are done.
BTW, the reason we'll be financially ruined if we divorce is house prices here are insane. Over $800,000 for a basic crappy old house here now. I worked it out with my lawyer - by the time we sold our assets, split it, paid out the mortgage, lawyers take their cut etc etc etc, we'll end up with just enough to buy a shitty second hand car each. I'll be renting a unit for the rest of my days, and likely so will she. Just like 99% of the wife's post-menopausal friends in the freedom "community". But I guess my wife will be "happy" at last.
PART 3 - Final Final point Glen & fellas - THIS video https://youtu.be/K9c_EMXDnIs is basically my approach to my situation at the moment.
Yes, I'm still grieving at the likely coming loss of my marriage, but I have dealt with a LOT of crap over the years, and I will pick myself up again and move on.
Y’know fellas… I’m out of my depth here… are either of you in a position to do an uncontested divorce? Where ya buy a $200.00 home-divorce kit… and come to an amicable parting of the ways with no need for lawyers ?
The kids will survive if you both put them first, I would think?
Not trying to give anyone any advice or tell anyone what to do… gawd knows hell knows no fury like a woman scorned and I am honestly puzzled - even with JL’s comments… why more women aren’t getting blown away by angry husbands…
But this lady investigator I knew once said that when divorces happen - and especially cheating is involved - men get broken hearted and women get mad.
I think today’s women are mad, literally and figuratively… right out of the gate. The only exceptions I see are the so-called “trad wives”.
What does Judaism have to do with monogamy and why are you posting an article from almost seven years ago?
ReplyDeleteIf ya know, ya know, A…
Delete"What does Judaism have to do with monogamy"
DeleteVery little, apparently. Especially when giving "advice" to us goyim.
Sums it up https://rense.com/general96/p2evil.html
DeleteWell we all gotta keep in mind what’s actually going on here: the first and foremost objective of modern journalism (hork, spit!) - is to generate clicks, likes, and ratings. In other words - revenue. Pretty much anything and everything can be written so long as it fulfills those objectives. Negative attention is as good as positive in this warped game.
DeleteThe only exception to that is when the content undermines (((the agenda))) or (((the narrative))) that (((the owners))) wish to drive.
This is simply a well executed judeo-shitlib troll piece. I sincerely doubt the author actually seriously believes it… I think the objective here is to goad and irritate the thinking man into noticing the wrong things, state the wrong opinions, and set themselves up as racists/antisemites so that the jewry and faggotry can all gang up on him, point and shriek and scream about anti-semitism. In other words… just the usual race baiting clap trap. Yawn.
I think this obviously intellectually inclined jewess should set an example and give her rat faced husband an open pink ticket for the holidays too! 😂👍
Touché
ReplyDeleteThis is what mind control looks like.
ReplyDeletehttps://x.com/ivan_8848/status/1871685294350913975?mx=2
Operation Mockingbird never ended.
The CIA controls the MSM.
The Conspiracy Theorists were right again. DG
Story by Rosa Silverman. She's the best writer/reporter! /s
ReplyDeleteHad to laugh at the headline at the top of the article. Imagine a "newspaper" where all those topics were about men? Men mean Business, Sex, etc etc etc ! The salt must flow.
ReplyDeleteI have no problem whatsoever with giving my wife a pass to cheat at Christmas or any other day of the year that ends in "y". The moment she asks for one, or tries to act on something like that, she's got her "free pass" with my most heart-felt blessings, along with divorce papers and ZERO chance of reconciliation.
I've had the following conversation with my wife a few times over the years. She effortlessly attracts other lame-duck loser women from the "freedom-movement" that are utterly eff'd in the head. They're fat, single, miserable losers and social outcasts. We have a free council-run, "music-on-the-podium" event every Friday night at one of our local parks during daylight savings. A few years ago, she had a "girls-night" there with six other peri/post menopausal loser single women from her workplace.
One particular 50+ woman drank FOUR bottles of wine, and was still upright and though clearly drunk, was operating fairly normally. None of the other six women with her tried to stop or slow her down. Such great friends !
A couple of times now, she has asked my permission to have a girls weekend with this alcoholic, severely obese cat mother and another similar "woman" at a coastal resort town six hours drive up the coast. Each time I said no effing way. Of course I get "you're insecure", "you're controlling", "you don't trust me ! ! ! ! ! (blink, blink)" blah-blah-blah.
I just laugh openly at her. My usual responses are a variation of:
1. I truly trust the locks on my car, but I don't leave the keys in the ignition, parked under a street light in >insert the local bad neighbourhood<.
2. Have all the girls nights you want. LOCALLY.
3. Exactly WHY do you want to hang out with a group of fat, alcoholic, PERMANENTLY SINGLE women hanging out at a venue 6 hours away from every one we know?
And of course, if she doth protest too much for too long, I tell her to go and have a great time, the best time of her life. Because ALL her stuff will be on the front veranda and the locks changed when she comes back. (I'm NOT bluffing with this). Married women don't want to go for trips away up the coast "with the girls".
Boy Anon, you sure are based patriarch! Giving your wife an ultimatum like that and she didn't upside your head with a frying pan? Keep it up, men desperately need to reestablish control and sanity, first in their family, community and their nation. I know, I drunk the stale hopium...
DeleteNot at all Cederq - I'm at the end of my wick, utterly sick of her carp, and we are very likely going to be divorced soon. She's now solidly menopausal, gives every excuse under the sun to try to avoid sex, its STRICTLY starfish method when she can't avoid it, (supposedly everything else hurts), has gained ~30 kilos, never touches me, hugs me, kisses me or tells me she loves me, rarely gets undressed in front of me, appreciates ANYTHING I do for her, spends all her time watching "Handmaids tale" or similar, is argumentative, and most fortunately -THANK God - we do not have kids. Been watching her like a hawk for signs of an affair, (nothing obvious on her phone or computer - yes I've checked both when she's not home) but I found she had accounts I didn't know about and managed to squirrel $10,000 of our money into her accounts (that I can't see). I couldn't believe how much the "cost of living" has escalated over the last year or so. Now I know why. Yeah, I'm not very happy right now.
DeleteTurns out she was already infertile when we got married. She already knew, but I had absolutely no clue at the time. So we wasted $30k in totally pointless IVF treatments. I found out last week that her mother told my mother >AT OUR WEDDING< that "we'd never have children". Gee thanks mum for not telling me until 12 YEARS later.
I have nothing but down side to stay in the relationship.
The final straw was I reminded her that we got up before both our families, (including her dying father), all of our friends and made vows to each other before God. She said it didn't count because we had a civil ceremony, she wasn't a Christian at the time, and it wasn't held in a church. I looked into her eyes, and she kept waffling some crap. Part of me died right there and then.
My folks are in their 80's and have just developed significant health issues, so I'm now also dealing with elder care on top of everything else. I'm stressed out of my brain, have developed alopecia barbae (my glorious beard is falling out in huge patches), having issues concentrating at work, and am desperate for a proper shag.
So basically, enough is enough. I have seen a lawyer and my financial retirement will be destroyed. It's the only reason I haven't pulled the pin yet. So will hers - which she'll discover when she talks to her lawyers. So we might patch things up. I'm a good man. I've done nothing wrong, and have nothing to be ashamed of. But I'm done. I'm in good shape, 7" in my pants, have a permanent job and earn low 6-figures. The next time a hottie gives me the come hither, I'm going to remember that moment my wife told me she didn't say her vows before God.
Uggghgggghhh. All that sounds really bad.
DeleteHate to say it, but it sounds like you’ve done everything right so far, A. A lot of men waffle under pressure like that and that’s the worst thing you can do. The best path forward with crazy women is to draw your lines, set your boundaries and tell them to make their mistake. The pattern I saw in the old Manosphere days was that when women were unhappy, they blamed it all on their men, divorced them and became even more bitter and twisted in their spinsterhood. But…whadda I know.
What gets into them? I had an interesting conversation with someone who claims that money is the number one cause of marital failure. I maintain that money squabbles are a symptom and not the cause of divorce. Have you any thoughts?
It's not money that does it. I think it's middle age crazy. They get to a point where they think they've wasted their lives. I had an email exchange with the ex that said I used her up until there's nothing left, typical battered housewife bs. She had to make me into a monster to justify a divorce (we're Catholic). In reality, I'm a normal dude that didn't know how to deal with a wife that was controlling and no longer loved him. So I drank.
DeleteNot three months after she filed, the week I got the final decree, I met another woman, a widow. Nicer, younger, prettier. BTW, what your wife did is grounds for an annulment in Catholicism. A rubber stamp one.
I wouldn't fear divorce. I know many guys like you. Hell, I was one. But I also know a few couples that can't split (financially). They hate each others guts but can't separate because (at least in the wife's case) because they are retired and she can't afford to live alone. So they live in misery. That there is worse.
I know all about battered women, TD. I did volunteer work at the local battered women’s shelter where my father in law and I would do minor repairs, shovel sidewalks, change lite bulbs and do janitorial stuff. I had to quit because my conscience couldn’t take it. In one year…I saw only one truly battered woman. I think she was Vietnamese or something? Her ‘man’ worked her over like a pro, and she arrived at the shelter with everything she owned in one very, very heavy suitcase.
DeleteOther than that they were druggies, whores, and nutters..often with children. Almost all of them NEEDED to be slapped and more than a few should have been horsewhipped.
The women in my family drove me to drink too. One day I finally put an end to the lunacy and just magically quit drinking a couple months later…cold turkey, no withdrawal symptoms at all. My wife didn’t even nag me. It was the damnedest thing…
My women and my situation are nothing like yours but I agree with Anon. There’s no easy way out and if things are that bad, pull the rip cord, bail out, take your lumps and try to land softly as you can.
You probably already know this, anon, but if she's doing things like going for 'girl's weekends out' with single friends at places where single women usually go, along with everything else you've talked about....well, I'd bet dollars to donuts she's probably at the point where she's ready to leave you too. She just doesn't know how to do it in a way that would screw her over too.
DeleteBuddy, I am in almost the exact same situation you're in. 15 years I've put up with this kind if shit, which only seems to get worse...only difference is, I have two kids (whom I love dearly). But if it wouldn't bone me financially as it would, and in turn hurt my kids, I'd pull the pin in a heartbeat. They're the only reason I endure this.
This seems to be a recurring problem everywhere I look. I'm a career policeman so domestic dispute calls aren't uncommon. But nowadays, DV calls are through the goddamn ceiling and thrusting into orbit. No...people out there aren't very happy at all...
" . . . money squabbles are a symptom and not the cause of divorce. "
DeletePART 1
I suspect you are spot on there Glen. What really hurts is the knowledge she's been purposely squirrelling money away in secret for over a year, maybe two, deliberately planning to divorce that entire time. Stringing me along, lying and pretending to my face all is OK or has a chance of resolving our supposed "issues".
She's gone over our accounts like a hawk every single day since we were wed. At first this really bothered me as I'd never been scrutinised over every cent in my life before. Put the final polish on me as a man to be honest, and I put up with it because we were going to have kids, and I had huge financial responsibilities just around the corner. For the first time in my life, I was going to be a father, and I would have happily sacrificed ANYTHING for this. Just like MY father did for me & my siblings.
But because of this scrutiny, I've learned financial discipline and we have zero debt, other than the large mortgage. Small 3-bedroom house near the ocean, we completely renovated it 2019-2021 during the 'vid. We own two cars outright (a shit-box daily driver & an awesome 4WD ute fully set up for towing & long distance travel), own a yacht (outright), have fantastic gardens full of fruit & vegetables, 2 x dogs, chooks, as many toys as we could desire (ie pro-level camera gear, basic video kit, surfboards, SUP boards, fishing gear, deer rifles, powerful computers, big screen, quality furniture & fully renovated kitchen, camping gear, pantry full of home grown vegies, a large emergency larder of canned food & water, etc, etc, etc), have reasonable savings and an emergency cash fund, enjoy an overseas holiday every year or two - etc etc etc. Life doesn't get much better ! (Though I want a small ~20 - 50 acre farm so we can get off-grid & have food and water independence)
PART 2
DeleteWe both have permanent, full-time good jobs - we both work from home 90% of the time too, saving mileage, fuel, servicing and a 2 hours per day commute. That is why I am 99% sure she is not cheating on me - as she has very few opportunities these days, and she knows I have game cameras set up around our house for security.
But she's not happy.
She had a mental breakdown after the IVF failed. Ended up getting violent with me - I didn't defend myself - instead I dragged her to her Dr and she was admitted to a mental hospital for a month. I made DAMN sure the Dr recorded that she assaulted ME, and I didn't respond. I also told my Dad and asked him to diarise it in case I mysteriously disappeared or was murdered as I slept. I also made sure she knew she would NEVER do that to me again, no matter what. Next time I'd defend myself, and we would be done forever.
Saw her every day in the hospital after work. Was there for her the whole way through. Course, the whole thing was because IVF mucked up her hormones, blah blah blah. I swallowed that rose fertiliser hook, line & sinker. Last millennium, an old gf become violent after going onto Depo Provera. So I cut my wife complete slack over this and truthfully let it go.
The issues came up ~3 years ago and have increased as the 'VID madness waned. Thanks to me keeping my job, she was able to avoid the medical experiment and we could keep our home. She became heavily involved in the "freedom" movement, and while we are in complete agreement over every aspect of it, the kinds of people she started socialising with changed. The vast majority are peri/post menopausal, miserable, tatted, nose-ringed single cat mums with loud opinions about everything. More than a few are dykes. The blokes generally tend to be a bit shifty, and I would not choose to associate with most of them as there seems to be a lot of growing weed and making hash in this "community".
I really started to notice the change in my wife when she became involved with this group, and I suspect the other women have been white-anting our relationship and likely telling her how to eff me over.
The first time I really had to put my foot down with her was she told me about this guy at the local protest that avoided the medical experiment as he'd just sold his computer business and didn't need to work anymore. He also "somehow" let slip in conversation that he had a stack of viagra.
At the time, I laughed when she told me about him, and the reason he needed viagra in his 40's was because he has heart issues and cannot get it up. I also pointed out that it was extremely odd that viagra had come up in conversation with a married woman. Viagra was not something a man would normally bring up to a woman he's recently met - in fact he'd be ashamed to admit he needed it!
I never tried to stop her going to these protests until one weekend she tells me she's going to an overnight protest in Canberra with another of the peri-menopausal single women - in viagra-man's car. Um, NO you are not. I trust you but do >NOT< trust some man who I have never met who has told my wife he has a stack of viagra. So yeah, I'm a controlling monster with trust issues. LOL !
There's a lot more along these lines, but basically, I've had more than enough and she falls in line or we are done.
BTW, the reason we'll be financially ruined if we divorce is house prices here are insane. Over $800,000 for a basic crappy old house here now. I worked it out with my lawyer - by the time we sold our assets, split it, paid out the mortgage, lawyers take their cut etc etc etc, we'll end up with just enough to buy a shitty second hand car each. I'll be renting a unit for the rest of my days, and likely so will she. Just like 99% of the wife's post-menopausal friends in the freedom "community". But I guess my wife will be "happy" at last.
PART 3 - Final
ReplyDeleteFinal point Glen & fellas - THIS video https://youtu.be/K9c_EMXDnIs is basically my approach to my situation at the moment.
Yes, I'm still grieving at the likely coming loss of my marriage, but I have dealt with a LOT of crap over the years, and I will pick myself up again and move on.
Y’know fellas… I’m out of my depth here… are either of you in a position to do an uncontested divorce? Where ya buy a $200.00 home-divorce kit… and come to an amicable parting of the ways with no need for lawyers ?
ReplyDeleteThe kids will survive if you both put them first, I would think?
Not trying to give anyone any advice or tell anyone what to do… gawd knows hell knows no fury like a woman scorned and I am honestly puzzled - even with JL’s comments… why more women aren’t getting blown away by angry husbands…
But this lady investigator I knew once said that when divorces happen - and especially cheating is involved - men get broken hearted and women get mad.
I think today’s women are mad, literally and figuratively… right out of the gate. The only exceptions I see are the so-called “trad wives”.